• Did you feel more comfortable after the preliminary phone call?

• Did you feel welcome to ask questions, share concerns, and speak your mind?
  • Any questions or concerns other newbies may share?

• Did I ask uncomfortable questions? Or did I pay attention to the details in your contact form so that the call was mostly just to break the ice?

• In-person, did you feel like you could relax, trust me, and go with the flow?
  • Perhaps feeling a true desire to submit to Me, if that was a goal?

• Did I offer aftercare and/or let you know you could reach out to me if you experience sub-drop?

• Are you glad you invested in a high-quality experience for your first time?
  • Do you think it is a good idea for newbies to book more than one hour for their first time?

Anonymous Persons:

Pandora's Box:

• Does Pandora's feel safe & discreet?

• Was the Head Mistress professional and the only other person you saw?

• Was there a concern you may bump into another patron, or were systems in place ("Clear!") to prevent that?

5-star Hotel:

• Was I dressed in a manner that was inconspicuous in that environment?

• Did you have any concerns, and if so, how were they resolved?

• Did you feel comfortable inviting me into your suite?

En Femme ~ 'As a Woman'

• Is it evident I love En Femme play?

• If I bring clothing and accessories for you, is everything neat, clean, of good quality, and in good repair?
  • Have I bought items for you?
  • Do I store items for you?

• What would you say to a closeted crossdresser who has never revealed herself to anyone?
  • Is it fun to play with pros?
  • Does getting out to play help in other ways - do you feel better able to take on the world?
  • Did anything surprise you when you came out of the closet to a Domina?

Please feel welcome to describe how you want to feel during play - newbies may find it helpful to know they are not alone.

• • Adored
  • Dainty
  • Degraded
  • Dirty
  • Empowered
  • Flirty
  • Honored
  • Nervous
  • Objectified
  • Peaceful
  • Playful
  • Proud
  • Safe
  • Seductive
  • Seen
  • Sexy
  • Slutty
  • Special
  • Submissive
  • Sweet
  • Understood
  • Used
  • Useful
  • Vulnerable

• Is there a difference between how you want to feel during play versus how you want to feel after play/during aftercare?

• Did you feel safe under my control?

• Do you think I am a skilled hypnotist?

• Did my being a certified hypnotist impact your decision to meet?
  • Or that I have attended hypnokink conventions?
  • Even if the answer is 'no,' finding a way to work those facts in would be helpful 🙂

Please feel welcome to share your experience, or what you remember of it, and how you felt.

Improv Players:

• Can I turn a few sentences of suggestions into a whole scene?

• Do you need to be a skilled actor to role play with a Domina, or could anyone improv and have fun?

• Do I pay attention to detail, arrange for clothing and props, and perhaps even cast supporting characters?

Scriptwriters:

• Did I pick up on the details and nuances within your writing?

• Have you found many Dominatrices or Disciplinarians welcome scriptwriters?

• Was I bound to the script, or did I take creative liberties, add my own personality to the role, & keep you on your toes?

• Do you think I have an intuitive and accurate sense of how much pain I can inflict to keep you on your edge?

• Do you think the fact that I personally have masochistic inclinations and enjoy receiving pain impacts how I deliver it to others?

• If you are a masochist with no submissive tendencies, do you appreciate that you do not have to pretend to get what you crave?
  • Do you enjoy speaking candidly about what you want and appreciate having a confidential connection with an engaging lady?

• Does the play get better with time?
  • Do I build upon prior experiences in ways that are exciting and fun?
  • Do I find new activities to try in line with your inclinations?
  • Do you enjoy knowing that you are going to have a great experience, as opposed to hoping the new Domina works out?

• How many people in your life can you speak to about the topics we discuss?
  • Is it helpful to have a confidante who is well-versed in taboo topics?
  • Do you enjoy speaking with me about non-kinky topics?
  • Do you think I am charming, fun, and/or a good conversationalist?

• Have you ever traveled to New York just to see me?
  • Attended a meeting you didn't actually have to be at?
  • Looked into or taken on a new venture or board seat so you would visit NYC regularly?
  • Pretty please note this if you can, especially if you could throw in a number of miles or timezones 🙂

• How long have we been meeting?
  • If you don't know exactly, you can put:(insert years and months) or (insert year we met) when writing.
  • Does the anticipation of seeing me brighten up your days?

• Do we eat at restaurants together?
  • Does this enhance your overall experience?
  • Do you feel more connected to a Mistress when you spend time together outside of a dungeon/play scene?

• Do we chat in-between meetings?
  • Does this deepen our connection and strengthen our bond?
  • This is something I would love to see noted as valuable. I may create a more accessible booking level where only the pre and post phone calls are included, corrosponding with me would be available separately to those who would value it, so I can be of service to more newbies and HSPs while protecting myself from burnout.
  • I love how corrospondance adds a beautiful depth and richness to a connection, but I can only toot my own horn so often.

• Do I keep things fresh and interesting, finding new ways to play with your inclinations?

• Do you look for experienced Mistresses? Do years of practice make a Domina more effective?

• Do you save up to see me? Why not just find someone you could see more often?

Please consider noting your experience as people are more likely to take advice from someone who has been around.

Using numbers instead of terms like 'many' or 'a lot' can be very helpful.

• Have you been active for years?
  • 5? 10? More than 20?

• Have you had a lot of sessions?
  • 20? 50? 200?

• Have you seen many Dominas?
  • 5? 10? 25?

Please consider writing your testimonial in your first language as if you were talking to someone from that culture.

• Are there any specific questions or concerns someone from that culture may have about booking?

• Did you feel comfortable asking questions?  Was Miss Tammy polite and helpful?

• Have I honored your culture in unexpected ways?  Packing kosher snacks, selecting a vegetarian restaurant, or studying the values you grew up with to better design a plan for your long-term development?