A: If we have not seen each other within the past two years, fill out the form below; it can take <60 seconds.

The form will show the deposit and consideration policies necessary for me to block off my calendar.

For the best possible experience, please first review the rest of the FAQs below.

Those I have seen within two years may:

• Use the scheduling app to set up our preliminary chat and note the date you would like to meet.
  • If email fails, may I reach out?
    • 'Text me' = 9a-5p  Mon-Fri
    • 'Text me anytime' = outside of business hours is ok.
    • (Social Media handle)

• The contact form is the next most efficient way.

Emails have not been getting through; Gmail and Yahoo especially. ProtonMail is what I use and recommend.

• You may put all of the info in *one* email (date & location, and any inspiration you care to share), so I can confirm with one email.
  • If you note you do not want a separate chat to plan, I will use that time to write a fun reply.

• • If you would enjoy a titillating response in addition to the planning chat included with your booking: tip, or send a gift equal to or greater than the value of my time ($100 = one email) *before* emailing

• • If you do not receive a response to a booking request within 24hrs, I either did not receive your email, or my response was blocked.

• Text messaging is a sensitive topic for me due to my experiences in the past with disrespectful boundary-pushers; I still flinch at certain notification tones. If you do not get a response via email, you may text as long as you put all of the info in *one* message.

• • For the love of my sanity, please do not text without noting the date you wish to meet unless I have given explicit permission to text as thanks for your tip/tribute/contribution.

While those who act like they are so special my boundaries should not apply to them usually seem surprised when told never to contact me again, I am used to this as I have had to do so many times in self-defense to protect myself from burnout. Thank you for respecting the boundaries that keep me safe, sane, and solvent so we may continue to enjoy our connection 🙂

Note that the deposit and consideration policies published at the time of your request apply to your booking; policies are organized within the contact form, so you only see what is applicable.

Decide to be generous

with an amount that is equal to or greater than the value of my time *before* I have to remind you that this is my livelihood.

Example:

• Bookings come with two conversations via telephone or text, one before and one after.

• If you contact me to chat beyond those and have not tributed, tipped, or gifted any consideration for the additional time, I have to defend my boundaries to protect myself from burnout; I will invite you to check out my Remote Experience offerings where you will see chat starts at $100.

• If you took it upon yourself to tip in person or send a gift of $100 or more before you sent your message, I will take the time to write a thoughtful response as soon as I have the time.

My favorite perspective:

My Angel Investor Patrons have me feel like they believe in me & in my dream to make a difference in this world; they contribute to my success as a patron to a creative - like Medici to Galileo, but much hotter 😉

Perhaps they know serving my real-life needs, goals, and dreams is more efficiently done by contributing currency than them personally growing and preparing food for me, ironing my clothes, and proofreading.

Their desire to see me succeed does not go out the window when plans change & they can't get in-person quid-pro-quo; they do not expect me to suffer a loss they create so still send their contribution if they cancel.

Decide to be generous so we can forget the pesky realities of this world and enjoy one of our own design.

1.) Offer non-appearance-related compliments.

I enjoy feeling valued as a person with a personality. I am passionate about my craft and love hearing that you enjoy the experiences I create.

2.) Present the tribute to me in cash at the beginning of our time together.

• I strongly prefer cash to e-transfer.
  • Especially for tips.
• Put it in a 'Thank you' card for a lovely touch - add a handwritten note and I will keep it forever 🙂
• If using a plain envelope, do not seal it.
• I love what I do and love when the tribute is proudly presented with gratitude for our connection.  You could also:
  • Silently place it in plain sight.
  • Have an e-transfer arrive before you do.

Not presenting the tribute upfront makes me nervous. I have had two stalkers. People will imagine they are my ‘real slave’ or ‘boyfriend’, which somehow means I no longer have to pay for food and shelter so I can see them for free(?); evading upfront tribute can be a red flag.

To see me happy, present the tribute upfront  🙂

3.) If you learn my legal name, do not use it.

I cringe when I hear a man say that name due to how manipulative ex-clients used it.

My friends, family, doctors, yoga teachers, and more all call me Victoria.

4.) NEVER write a comment on a payment processor or eGift addressing me as Mistress, referring to kink themes, or mentioning a meeting.  

• Vanilla (non-kinky) well-wishes are welcome 🙂

5.) Understand that tipping is not expected.  While there are benefits to tipping, I have plenty of patrons who never have and never will, and I adore them.

• If we go over on time, tips add a cushion. I default to working with a discrete timer to keep us within the booked time, or, you may request a no-timer option where Miss Tammy would reach out to you afterward to e-send for any overage.  However, if someone tips I take it out of that without a word.

• Arranging a double with a pro I do not know is time-consuming.  For tippers, the fantasy simply comes to life.  Otherwise, it's ~$250+

• If I see something for sale a tipper may like, I am more likely to purchase it.

• My non-tippers see itemized invoices for multi-day extravaganzas; tippers remain blissfully unaware of how much work goes on behind the scenes.

• Tips offer a non-transactional feel for those who would like to connect beyond the two conversations included with bookings.

6.) Gifts are also not expected.  For those who like to go above and beyond I will note:

Presenting an item from my wishlist when we meet may be the fastest way to make it onto my favorites list.

• Favorite champagnes:
  • Dom Pérignon
  • Veuve Clicquot

• Favorite wines:
  • Sancerre (esp. 2018)
  • Pouilly-Fumé (esp. 2020)
  • Sauvignon Blanc in general
    • Pale color preferred.

• Favorite flowers:
  • *Never* red roses.
  • 'English Garden' bouquets - Fav!
  • Potted succulents.

• Favorite chocolates:
  • Milk chocolate peanut butter *anything.*
  • Dark chocolate and sea salt.

• Miscellaneous:
  • I love interesting bookmarks!
  • Pothos or other clippings that may be propagated.
  • Sweet or fruity teas:
    • Hibiscus is my fav!
    • Strawberry or any berry
    • Apple or pear

Thank you for reading this 🙂

I enjoy being extra thoughtful and generous with those who are extra thoughtful and generous to me.